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How to Share with a Bear


Written by Eric Pinder, Illustrated by Stephanie Graegin

Farrar Straus Giroux, 2015

One cold day, Thomas gathered some pillows and blankets and made a warm cozy cave.

Thomas steps away from his cave to get a flashlight and when he comes back, he finds a bear has moved into his new cave. He puts down a trail of blueberries leading away from his cave and the bear follows the trail, giving Thomas the chance to grab some books and get back to his cave. But when he gets there, the bear’s already beaten him to it. Thomas tries tempting the bear with a back scratcher, filling the sink with bath toys and putting out a bowl of honey oat cereal, and finally he manages to get into the cave. When the bear sees there’s no room for him, he starts to cry and Thomas feels bad. He and the bear, who we now see is actually his little brother in bear pajamas, build a new cave that’s big enough for both of them.


I love the idea of a little bear just casually walking through the house.

When I read this book for the first time, I was completely surprised by the revelation of the bear being Thomas’ little brother. Author Eric Pinder makes Thomas a really admirable character throughout this story. He never loses his temper at the bear’s presence and all of his efforts to lure the bear away are positive things instead of negative ones. And when he sees his brother upset, he immediately changes up the cave to make it big enough for both of them.

On subsequent reads, I noticed that there were some clues to the bear’s identity sprinkled throughout Stephanie Graegin’s artwork. In addition to the fact that we never see the bear’s face, you’ll notice pictures on the walls of Thomas and his brother and other little clues to let us know there are two kids in this family instead of just one. The last page in the book features an illustrated guide to building your own cave from pillows and blankets. I’m going to go build one now. If you need me, you can find me there.

And what did we learn? What I take away from this book is that it’s great to have cool things of your own, but it’s even better to have good friends you can share with.


Forget Me Not


Written by Nancy Van Laan, Illustrated by Stephanie Graegin

Schwartz & Wade Books, 2014

I remember when Grandma was still her old sweet self, doing the things she had always done, exactly the way she had always done them.

The plot in a nutshell:  A young girl deals with her grandma’s failing memory

Julia loves visiting her grandma. She loves Grandma’s fried chicken and biscuits and the way she smells like cinnamon and lilac. But Grandma starts becoming forgetful. It starts with her forgetting names and Julia tries to help her laugh it off. Then Grandma can’t remember things they did together or where she parked the car. One night, she forgets to turn on the oven and puts salt instead of sugar in the pie. The family tries to hire help for Grandma, but things keep getting progressively worse and when they find Grandma digging in the snow in her nightgown, Julia’s mom tells her that they’re moving Grandma to a special care facility. Julia is worried, but she goes to see Grandma in her new home and gives her big hugs, even though Grandma often doesn’t remember who she is. Julia plans to bring forget-me-nots to her Grandma, hoping they will make her smile and clap, like she used to.

Remembering Grandma in happier times

Remembering Grandma in happier times

My mother-in-law has Alzheimer’s and reading through this book was like a sad journey back through her decline.  Author Nancy Van Laan treats her subject matter with the perfect amount of poignancy and delicacy, with some appropriately light moments to balance it all out and give it a sense of warmth and optimism. She addresses not only the loss of memory, but the eventual inability of Grandma to care for herself and how frustrating and scary that can be for everyone involved. Grandma’s illness is described as coming on “ever so slowly, like a low tide leaving the bay,” which is a beautiful and somehow comforting image.

Stephanie Graegin’s artwork, in digitally colored pencil and ink washes, gives the story a cozy softness that manages to convey all the emotions of the story’s characters in a way that never feels alarming. Because we’re seeing this story from Julia’s perspective, we see Grandma as she sees her and Ms. Graegin is careful to make very subtle changes to her appearance as the illness progresses. I would highly recommend this book to anyone with young kids having to face the onset of Alzheimer’s in a loved one, especially because it’s so positive, with the closing reminder that everything will be okay.

And what did we learn?  What I take away from this book is that disease can change our loved ones, but they can’t take away our happy memories of them.